Journaling

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

The purpose of this article is to show you how to journal effectively. Journaling is a time-old process used by everyone - from cave drawings, Egyptian hieroglyphics to Henry VII’s diaries. The process of keeping a diary or writing alone is therapeutic.  A pen gliding across the paper is a cathartic way to record thoughts; re-live how you feel; and re-visit what you were thinking.

Journaling helps to:

• slow down

• reflect

• take in 

• unwind

• savour moments

• gain perspective

• learn about yourself

• practice writing skills

• make lists

• organize your thoughts

It offers insight into what you enjoy; what works for you; and how you spend your time and energy.

What type of journal interests you? narrative, ideas, jokes, lyrics, dreams, health, gratitude

Where to journal? - Cozy spot, outside, in bed, garden, waiting for appointments, stoop― it could be anywhere, preferably with a cup of tea

When to journal?  - Before starting your day/ breakfast, before bed

Why to journal? - Cathartic, to unwind, to remember, provide a measurable objective idea of what now is like, purpose, to meditate, stream of consciousness― Journaling can be fun or informative.

What is your intention? Perhaps you need time to yourself, want to get out of your head, want a private space to mull things over, want to remember your life, want to start a gratitude practice, want to remember your dreams...  Think about what you want to get out of this experience.

Steps:

1 – Get a journal- it can be a spiral notebook or anything laying around with blank paper, no need to be fancy.

2– Schedule a time and place where you can write.

3– Be True to Yourself. Try to be honest, gentle, and practice self love. This is for you; you don’t need to impress anyone.

It’s important to be gentle with yourself and practice self care, but you don’t need to hold back when you journal. You can be raw, real, genuine, authentic, and honest. For a challenge you can try to observe your thoughts without judgement.

Take time to sit with yourself and express what you’re feeling. This is for your feelings, not for a museum or to impress your mum. You deserve this time completely for yourself.

Anxious about being Anxious

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

Perhaps you've heard others do this to themselves. They make a casual mistake like dropping change at the checkout and say to themselves "stupid stupid stupid." Then, perhaps predictably in their fluster, they forget their receipt and go on to various other minor mishaps as they chastise themselves or place blame over piddly issues. 

These insults do nothing to prevent one from dropping change, just as calling something stupid does nothing to make it smarter. Dropping change, in fact, has little to do with someone's intelligence. Dropping change is merely a common side-effect of not paying attention. They are flustered, but it's not even about dropping change. It's about... everything else, it's about running late, having a bad day, or not feeling well. Perhaps they are hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. Or maybe, it's about not feeling good enough. Perhaps they feel inadequate in some way, or have basic needs that haven't been met. Perhaps they didn't feel safe, loved, or appreciated enough as a child. 

That's the real tricky part, stopping and finding out what's really going on when you find yourself irrationally upset or angry over spilt milk. Imagine if instead, they dropped the change, thought nothing out of the ordinary of it, simply picked it up and it didn’t register as a reason to be bothered. 

Steps to Break the Cycle

1. Know you can. Positive change is possible.

2. Pay Attention. Where are you now, and where is your mind going?

3. Stay Present. Be in the moment. Experience right now.

4. Find and Replace. Find you negative belief and change it. Reframe this belief into something positive.

Listen to Self-Talk

How are you speaking to yourself? Is it how you would talk to a good friend? Often times our worst critic is our inner critic. Even more, we are often unaware of the background noise constantly milling around in the back of our minds. When you stop and listen, you have the power to address and change the noise into helping affirmations.

Challenge Habits and Habitual Thoughts

We create narratives about ourselves. Then, we fall into the trap of believing our stories. Our stories appear more true than reality; they're what we fall back on. Instead of being in the present moment where typically not so much is actually happening, we tend to run through scripts in our heads.

Repetition Repetition Repetition

When it’s challenging to find relief and a state of calm in a worried mindset, there’s a lot we can do to calm the anxiety cycle. It's important that what we are saying to ourselves over and over is helpful and builds us up to feel and be better. Hurling insults at yourself is not productive and doesn't encourage happiness, growth, or self-worth. 

Placebo and Nocebo Effect

Often various medical treatments for anxiety work on the “placebo effect,” which is not to say they are ineffective. Oh contraire, if a person recovers; the treatment reached its intended effect. The thoughts “I will get relief,” “I will feel better,” and “This is helping” calm your mind and body and allow these things to be true. Believing something works can massively affect outcomes. 

On the other hand, negative beliefs we hold have the power to make us feel worse or perpetuate a problem, cue in the “nocebo effect.” For example, people often say “I’m a terrible cook, so I just eat take-out,” when they aren’t necessarily bad cooks. Often times it’s people who’ve never even tried cooking because the thought that they are bad at it is intimidating. To challenge this they could take a cooking class or try a simple recipe and say “I’m learning to be a great cook.” That will reinforce culinary success and allow for the possibility of greatness.

We have a strange way of making our story true. This can be great in the sense that say you make art and want to be a great artist, you can tell yourself "I am a talented artist." It may sound silly, but it's very encouraging. It reinforces practicing, working on art, connecting, and sharing your art.

Build Your Strength 

Say all of these mantras out-loud:

I can do this. 

I am enough, and I will always be enough. 

I am supported and loved, and I love myself deeply. 

I am at ease with the world.

 If you find any of them difficult to say or hard to believe, focus on that mantra. Let it become natural and easy. If you feel anxious or notice you are using negative self-talk, remember to focus on your mantra.

When you find yourself anticipating the next possible moment of anxiety, remember the above recipe for changing your thoughts.  Remember to H.A.L.T.! (Ask yourself if you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired?) and apply the steps!

The How To of Positive Psychology

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

People commonly associate Positive Psychology with optimism and mind over matter. It is more complex and involved than saying or thinking “good thoughts”. Positive Psychology attempts to achieve happiness by doing: practicing gratitude, genuine self-examination, and self discipline.

We can use Positive Psychology to prioritize happiness in both the present and build strengths to fulfil personal goals for the future. To be successful involves consistent work everyday. 

There is an overload of negative messages in the news and media that can subconsciously cause us to shutdown or lose faith in people or the world. To challenge downtrodden views by sensationalist media is important. Realistically, the media tends to express extremist views that sell fear and insecurity. Think of reality television; a balanced view is considered boring, although pragmatism and stability are arguably more enjoyable. Changing the way you think, optimising what you do, and spending your time better create a path to happiness.

Set goals. Identify what you most want to change or improve in your life and create a goal to work towards achieving that purpose. Don’t stress, this does not have to be your life’s purpose. It can be simple or complex, and you can tweak it as you go.

Make room for ritual. Schedule daily and weekly activities to make yourself happy and for your personal well-being. Organise them at regular times throughout your day. Stick to these goals even if you don’t feel like it. Chances are you won’t feel like doing things, pleasurable or challenging, until you create a habit. It takes roughly a month to create a habit. It could be doing YouTube dance tutorials for 30 minutes every day (with breaks and modified as needed) and going to an Improv class once a week.
Say mantras. Repeat a phrase that you want to embody, you can tie it into your meditation practice, say it to yourself on your drive or in the shower, or for daily motivation. It’s important to identify a belief you want to change or a goal you want to accomplish; cater your mantra to you. For example, If you feel weak say I am strong. Breathing is easy. Exercising is easy. I love myself deeply. Using prompts like saying your mantra when you enter a doorway, see or hear someone laugh, see or hear an animal, or when you look at your phone will assist in staying on task, creating the habits and optimising your brain.

Exercise. Your mind and body are connected. Consistently dedicating 30 minutes of your day to light or moderate exercise has countless positive effects on your mood, body, mind, and stamina. Keep searching for a way to move that works for you. Don’t stress about your ability; focus on improving upon what you can do. Yes, some people go to the gym and deadlift 35 stone, but you can get strong increasing your reps of small barbells, swimming, yoga, dance, tai chi, or whatever interests you.

Express gratitude. Express what you are grateful for each day. Be grateful to yourself for working on self-improvement and prioritizing your happiness and well-being.

Learn to Fail Forward. Taking risks and failing make you a stronger person, now more capable to fight bigger battles. Playing it safe and striving to stay in your comfort zone is a commitment to failure. If you never muster up the courage to put yourself out there, you will definitely fail. If you strive and challenge yourself, you will experience some failure and some success. You will progress in a positive direction. You will be stronger, and who knows, you may live your dream. Don’t roll over because you are afraid of failure; roll the dice.

““[I]t’s not necessarily going to work out the way you want it to work out, but it is taking you forward, and you are leaving the nest. And that never can be a mistake—to fly instead of staying in the nest with all the poop and everything that’s in there.” ”

— Quote SoPema Chödrön, Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better: Wise Advice for Leaning into the Unknownurce

Build Your Strength. In your journal write down your main goals: what you want to focus on create, become, or what you want to heal or repair in your life. Make rituals, realistic daily goals, and set aside dedicated time to focus exclusively on those goals. Meditating when you wake up or light exercise before breakfast are excellent. Pair an activity with something you already do, like practicing mantras, quick exercises, or breathing exercises while you wait on the tea kettle. Be consistent. Organise these into a daily checklist and hang it where you will see, do, and check off your accomplishments everyday.

Positive Psychology Meets the Pity Party

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

To someone with or without Fibromyalgia “How are you doing?” can come off as small talk, an invitation, or a loaded question. It can feel like an obligation to say you’re fine for others’ supposed benefit; an excuse to list ailments and woes; or  even elicit a complicated social panic.

Expression is massively vital to well-being. Letting out your feelings and running with your personality are paramount to happiness, but where is the line? What is the difference between having a pity party and expressing all of your feelings?

Expression starts with you. Often we mask how we truly feel. Finding a healthy way to listen to your mind and body is vital to expressing yourself. Discovering positive ways to honestly express yourself can take on a journey of its own.

Set intentions. Are you trying to solve a problem or brag about it? If you’re competing for sympathy, it’s time to stop. Making someone feel bad for you, will not make you feel any better; that’s not the type of validation to strive for. Focus on positives. It could be as simple as a recipe or something you saw out your window. Tell a joke that made you laugh. 

Be proactive. Have you found something you enjoy or that gives you relief? Share it! Focus on steps to take care of yourself: sticking to a doable exercise plan, exercising gratitude for what you do have, making healthier choices, and prioritizing what makes you happy.

Practice Positive Psychology. Focus on Self-Love; Focus on bettering your future. Let go of the past along with anything not serving you now. Old scores are not present, move on, do what you can now.

“Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin
As self-neglecting.”

— Henry V, William Shakespeare

Build Your Strength 

Slow down your breathing. Take a deep breath for a count of 5, hold it, then let it out to a count of 10. Do this breathing exercise 5 times in the morning and five times at night. It’s great to do if you’re stressed, waiting on something, or whenever. Try this Polyvagal breathing exercise everyday for 2 weeks, and see how you feel. 

How Fear Manifests

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

What if I told you it’s not your fault? That time you froze up instead of doing something, anything, was an automatic biological response outside of your conscious control?

It’s time to forgive yourself for unfavorable, fear based reactions, and move forward.

Guilt and shame are not serving you. Replace them and take control of your fears.

When we come from a place of compassion for ourselves and those around us, we are our best selves. Cutting ourselves down for our past traps us. To move forward we must forgive ourselves, and work to a better future.

How we react to negative people or situations usually comes about in a few different ways. When we face danger or perceived danger we respond with:

Fight- attack the conflict head on

Flight- run away, escape the situation

Freeze- shut down, pretend or believe this isn’t happening

Fight, flight or freeze turn out to be more complicated than previously thought, for humans anyway. 

In many ways this o’possum self defense methods allow us to excel and form stronger bonds and collaborate with new stimuli in our environment that could be perceived as a threat. However, freezing like fainting or passing out is not always safe or ideal. When exposed to trauma this is often the case. People’s body automatically freeze without making a conscious decision, thinking, or having a proper chat with your brain and body to double check that it’s a proper good idea.

Adverts and politicians use this method to scare people into buying into their products because they can’t afford not to!!! Fear overrides our nervous system, which encourages us to make rash actions rather than intelligent choices. Think about it. If someone is screaming or using fear-based arguments, do you think they really have your best interests at heart? Calm discussions may not be as overwhelmingly exciting as an infomercial, but they tend to present more sound, clear information.

Understanding more of the physiology of these responses will help us to calm our reactions as we’ll explain below.

Take the example of the freeze response. Our vagus nerve is a dual feedback loop.  The most major of the cranial nerves, the vagus nerve goes from the back of the brain down into all our major organs including the heart and stomach. This means that the brain is talking to our organs and our organs are talking back to the brain. Emergencies are felt by the heart and the stomach, for example, and then a signal is sent to the brain resulting in a freeze response.  

Rather than running or fighting constantly, ‘toning’ the vagus nerve via a breathing technique allows us to slow down and use diplomacy and conflict resolution. (Vagus Toning Technique:  Inhale for 4 counts and exhale for 6 counts...and repeat as much as you want.)

When we get scared, we breathe quickly, our senses heighten so the barely audible sound of a creaky floor can put us on edge. Pain intensifies and our hearing becomes sharp as a defense mechanism to escape predators, which is advantageous for survival in life-threatening situations. Sometimes our body gets mixed messages and overreacts when we aren’t in a dangerous situation, which causes problems and unnecessary oversensitivity to pain. Thankfully, we can practice breathing methods and calm our mind, body, and nervous system.

Let’s forgive ourselves for being duped by these tactics. Scare tactics are tried and true ways to get people off guard, making them susceptible to anything. Though it may make one feel daft to be bamboozled by such cons, it’s merely human nature. Once you understand why scare tactics are effective at achieving fear based reactions, you can learn to stay in control.

Turn Fear into Forgiveness. Forgiveness allows us to learn from our mistakes, or in some cases to forgive ourselves for situations outside of our control. We can accept and love ourselves, and move forward with a greater knowledge of why our mind and body react erratically under pressure. Focus on solving the problem by calming your nervous system through breathing and identifying patterns that cause this fear response. 

If you notice people around you are tearing people down rather than building them up, it’s time to do some soul searching and set clear boundaries to create a better environment for yourself.

Hacks for rewiring your brain:

Breathing

Meditation

Yoga

Breathe when you get angry or upset to calm your mind and body and to make better rational decisions.

Build Your Strength 

Practice the Vagus Toning Technique. Do this 10 times each day. You can do it when you wake up, make breakfast, get into a car, before bed. The key is to find a cue to prompt you to practice, which could be grabbing your keys to leave the house!

Responsibility for Me

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

Responsibility may sound daunting.  That’s because it takes courage and compassion.  While we wage our daily battle, we know fortitude perhaps more than anyone.  It lends a sense of agency, accomplishment, and independence to take responsibility for ourselves within our ability.

Dictionary.com defines responsibility as “the state or fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one’s power, control, or management.”  To do that it’s vital that we  understand what is within our realm of responsibility and ability.  We need to be compassionate for ourselves, and realistic with managing expectations.

Taking personal responsibility for yourself often involves stepping back and allowing other people to take responsibility for themselves.  It’s so important to allow your loved ones and people you spend time with to make their own choices and to care for themselves,  even if you don’t personally agree with their decisions.  People need to make mistakes, own up to the consequences, and clean up the mess – it’s all about learning.  It can be incredibly difficult not to offer your services to friends and family in the form of advice, a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on, favors, cleaning their dishes, and everything else under the sun.  Sometimes we take on more than we can chew, including tasks others need to accomplish for themselves.  If we do someone's homework,  how will they manage to learn and accomplish the next day’s assignments? 

If you begin to feel worn out emotionally, physically, or mentally it’s incredibly important to take care of yourself and take a moment for yourself.  It is not selfish to choose self-care first –  it’s empowering.  Saying no can mean saying yes to yourself, to relaxing, to enjoying how you spend time versus overdoing it.  We build trust by communicating, taking responsibility, and being genuine.

Step forward and do what you can.  When you become overwhelmed or annoyed it’s time to step back.   You don’t want to give so much of your energy that you feel taken advantage of or feel resentful.  The point is to contribute freely and responsibly.

Build Your Strength: In your journal list responsibilities for you and prioritize. Cross out other people’s responsibilities and issues outside of your control -- You can even make a list of tasks not to take on and burn it to let go.

Step Forward, Step Back.

Trust

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

“We accept the love we think we deserve.”

— Stephen Chbosky

We need trust, to trust and be trusted. But what is trust? And furthermore why can trust be so terrifying and exhilarating?

Trust is putting yourself out there: being yourself, exposing your vulnerabilities, and sharing your story. People need your story: not everyone, but the people that matter. They need your truth, your fight, your struggle, and your perspective just as you need theirs.

We’re more alike than different so how, and with whom do we open up and relate?

I’m by no means suggesting you trust everyone. Despite coming off as calculating, the adage you have to earn trust rings true. When you trust someone it is a gift of your time, energy and mind – not something you lightly pour your heart into. This goes for friends, lovers, doctors, therapists, co-workers, classmates, pets, family, and every important relationship in your life. So who do you trust?

Mutual self-love on both sides is vital for trust.

Engage with one another. Communicate, set boundaries together.

Respect is important for yourself as well as other people.

Be genuine by being yourself and trusting in yourself first.

Reciprocate. Give and take should go both ways.

Empathy. Be kind to yourself and others.

Respect: Find out what it means to you! Be with people who treat you with respect and respect themselves. You can’t give more than you have so self worth is important. Taking time for yourself and being kind is vital; if your energy is always directed outward you’ll keep running to catch up with it.

Reciprocate. Give and receive. Any relationship is a push and pull. Asking for help is just as crucial as giving it.

Grow from Mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, yet owning up, communicating, and making amends speaks volumes to someone’s character and integrity. We can chose to sincerely apologize, explain ourselves, suggest a way to make it up now, and troubleshoot and commit to improving for the future. Letting people know you expect to be treated with similar kindness is essential. Wallowing in the past makes everyone feel down; it’s better to talk, work together, and see what can be done to make the situation better.

Create Boundaries. This is also where communicating boundaries and explaining how Fibromyalgia affects you and how you spend your time is massive. You don’t need to say ‘yes’ to everyone and everything. Self-care means taking it easy and listening to your body. Share with those you feel comfortable and care about spending time with while most importantly respecting your own time and energy.

When you don’t feel up to joining in on plans it’s important to voice that. Try to be realistic about expectations for yourself and others. Keeping plans is a huge challenge for many of us; letting trusted friends, co-workers, and others know why, responsibly takes pressure off yourself. Saying “I would love to, but I don’t know if I will be able to make it.” Or with closer friends explaining “I would love to make it. I have fluctuating chronic pain and fatigue, so sometimes my schedule is unpredictable and I need to take time out to relax and take care of myself.” Thanking people for the invite without making promises shows you care about them and yourself. If you need to cancel plans, first off be kind and gentle with yourself. If you feel up to it, suggest something else, like them coming to you – most people love relaxing in good company. If that doesn’t suit, offer a brief explanation, be genuine and kind.

As campy as it sounds trust isn’t falling into a strangers arms at camp, it’s about being able to push and pull, communicate, and work to keep from falling down. Think of ballroom dancers. Ever wonder how they know how to glide in unison? The secret is they maintain a certain tension by pushing against each other. This is a way dancers respect each other’s space and communicate in subtle direct gestures with their partners. The lead gives lead ins and hints before suggesting a direction or spin with a smooth gesture, never jerking the follower.

Be proud of yourself for asking for help, saying ‘no’, setting, and keeping boundaries. It’s all about trust.

How To of Mindfulness

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

We run around endlessly in our heads, agonizing over the past; our “to do” list spanning into old age; even speculations beyond our lifetime- yet, how often do we observe right now? What if you could move beyond the continuous chatter stream and give yourself time and space to just be?

Much of our lives center around attempting to escape pain – Mindfulness Meditation does the opposite, brazenly addressing how you feel in the present. Clinical trials attributed Mindfulness Meditation to significantly reducing chronic pain.

Ways to access mindfulness:

Listen to waves crash on the beach.

Watch flames dance in a campfire.

Stretch or practice yoga.

Repeat or chant a mantra.

Observe mesmerizing smoke trailing off the flame of a candle.

Sketch spiral doodles.

Venture through a labyrinth.

There are infinite possibilities to be present; in doing so we can center our thoughts to achieve a greater mental clarity and relaxation. As an exercise, let’s focus on breathing because it is always there for us.

Set aside a time to meditate; any time you can manage will be perfect.

Find a quiet place outdoors, in your home, or join a local meditation group.

Get cozy. Sit or lay in a comfortable position.

• Take 3 deep inhales, hold your breath for two counts then allow it to drain slowly out your mouth. Focus on the sounds and sensations of your breath. Thoughts will come up, try not to judge them. Allow them to float by. Return to the wave-like quality of your breath.

Rather than avoid feelings or attempt to escape pain, acknowledge and be aware of how you feel. You are experiencing only a feeling; it will change. 

Recognize invading thoughts for what they are. Get curious with your internal dialogue instead of accepting negative self talk or labeling and compartmentalizing. If you begin to fixate on something, acknowledge it, then move back to your breath.

Be present for yourself. Everything will still be here when you come back from your meditation: work, plans, anticipations. Inversely, you can always return to your breath.

Accepting New Changes as an Expat

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris

Moving to a new country can be both exciting and difficult. Unfortunately, not everything about the process is sugar, spice, and everything nice. Sometimes, you’ll have to deal with situations where your only option is to accept the road before you.

When we fight the drama, the change, how others are reacting to us or our situations, we need to be very mindful.  Are we able to accept what is outside of our control? Here are some thoughts to help you consider the subject of acceptance.

Understanding what acceptance is

Acceptance doesn’t mean accepting defeat. It’s not an endorsement of what you find problematic. We can accept something without thinking it is “okay”. Acceptance is about being aware. It is about acknowledging reality. When we accept reality for what it is, we can work with instead of against it. 

Acceptance acknowledges what is: what is happening? What is really going on? What is the reality of this situation? How you feel about what’s going on in reality doesn’t change the fact that reality is how it is. Ignoring something won’t make it go away. Paying attention to what’s really happening around us, and accepting the situation for what it is, is the first step to making it better.

When we try to change something that we pretend is not happening or isn’t an issue, we leave ourselves feeling guilt, shame, helplessness, suffering, and frustration. Feeling bad doesn’t resolve the issue. These punishing feelings do nothing but stand in our way of addressing the source of our frustrations.

Embracing acceptance 

We need to be real with ourselves and accept what is going on both within and around us. We also need to ask ourselves “What Else is Happening?” Observe everything that’s happening instead of only fixating on a single event. Understand why this is happening.

• Identify the Problem - What’s Wrong?

• Identify the Solution - What do you want to happen?

If the solution involves wanting a change of scenery, waiting for a person, a situation, or even the weather to change, don’t hold your breath.

It’s outside of your control.

It isn’t personal that the weather is indifferent to your demands or that people do, act, and are how they are, but there are other ways to respond.

What can you do?

Accept people for who they are, even if you think they could be better. You can’t make them change by sheer force of will, nagging, doing the work for them, telling them how infuriated you are with them, or through magic. They can change for themselves if they so choose, but you cannot create that change for them.

You must also acknowledge that they may never change. The situation may remain the same. Do you want to continue doing what you are doing in the same way if the situation will remain the same?

Observe where you fit into the situation. Does pushing or “wanting” things to change get your way? If it’s a waste of your energy, perhaps it’s best to stop, redirect, and spend your time doing something you enjoy for yourself.

Change Your Reaction 

Be more aware, helpful, compassionate, or accepting. You are going through a lifetime of changes, all at once, and it’s good to stay in control of your emotions. Acknowledge and accept them. Consistent problems are easy to work around when you accept them because you know what to expect and how to work around them. Let go of the need to control for things that are outside of your control, such as the traffic in a big city. Just allowing others the space to make their own decisions is liberating.

Choose How You Engage with the Situation.

You can decide if you want to stay and work around the way it is, or if you want to leave the situation altogether. Only you can decide if you want to stay, or if you want to leave the situation altogether

We get into trouble when we see everything from a place of wanting, whether it’s:

• Wanting to change someone

• Wanting the situation to be different

• Wanting to feel differently

• Wanting to numb painful feelings

• Wanting other people to change

• Wanting other people to feel how you feel

It all has the same result in that it keeps you waiting for something that will never happen.

We can choose to look at any situation from a place of:

1. Love

2. Gratitude Compassion

3. Acceptance

Do you need more resources to help you embrace acceptance in your life?

It’s okay to need more time, need more resources, and need guidance to find calm within yourself, even if that involves a therapist, like me. It’s always better to seek help sooner than later. Counseling can help ease the transition to a more positive mindset. 

Food for thought

The next time you’re feeling pain or an uncomfortable feeling try to sit with it. Question how you are feeling. Look at the situation objectively.

Finally, ask yourself: Can I change this?

If Yes -  Summon your courage to Change It, or Accept that it is your Choice to continue as you have been.

If No -  Accept it! 

Acceptance doesn’t mean accepting defeat. It just means that you understand that you cannot control your environment down to the nitty-gritty and that in itself is liberating.